Tips on working from home with the kids.

Working from home and trying to look after the kids even if this is something you do anyway can be a challenge. Heres a few tips: Make a list tonight of what’s on the agenda for tomorrow, keep it flexible but be sure to prioritise those important tasks into a time slot that you know you will manage to stick to. Consider your current circumstance and be realistic, for example, if you need a quiet hour to complete a certain task, make sure the kids will be tasked with something they are concentrating on, in bed asleep, or that it
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Whilst coaching Peter my heart went out to him.

I would like to share this story with you about a teenager called Peter (not real name) I have been coaching recently who my heart went out to. Peter was feeling stressed because his parents didn’t know what to do with him, he was feeling useless, sad and empty.  My heart went out to him as he or his parents really didn’t know what to do about the situation. Before I go on let me share a little with you about Peter. After leaving 6th form at a school near Exeter last year Peter wanted to have some time to travel the
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Staying Positive

It’s easy to let yourself get dragged down with all that’s going on at the moment so I want to spread a little positivity to you and keep your spirits up. Lots of you will now be working from home where it’s easy to let your mental health fall into sloppy and downward spirals. Here are 8 tips to keep yourself in a positive and proactive mode to look after your mental health: Get up at what time you normally would and get ready as if you are going to work normally. For example dress in your “work clothes” and
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Is your teenager coping with life?

As well as working with adults, I seem to have spent quite a lot of time coaching teenagers over the past month who are generally finding life difficult and are unable to cope with various issues. These include exam nerves, anxiety, confidence, panic attacks, stress and body dysmorphia, to name just a few.  They love it when I use hypnotherapy in our sessions and find it really useful. You have to admit it is a difficult time in their lives with hormones flying around all over the place and feeling like everyone is on their case! Similarly, it’s also a difficult time
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Stress In The Workplace – How To Face It Head On

Stress has become a not-so silent epidemic which is slowly draining businesses financially around the world.  According to one study in America, stress affects around thirty million workers a year costing their employers $15,000 per year, per affected employee!  In 2002 the European Survey of Working Conditions showed that the annual EU cost related to absenteeism due to work place stress was £20,000 million… [https://osha.europa.eu/en/tools-and publications/publications/reports/TE-81-08-478-EN-C_OSH_in_figures_stress_at_work] In a study performed every five years by the European Foundation for the Improvement of Living and Working Conditions, stress was documented as being second in line for the ‘crown’ of most common workplace
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Setting Goals – New Year resolutions

A New Years resolution is basically the same as setting goals to achieve.  I know I have set many over past years like many other people by February/March they have gone out of the window and flown away in the March winds!!  The most popular seem to be loosing weight, giving up the fags and drinking less – which I can certainly help you with. So why bother setting ourselves goals or NYR? Committing ourselves to doing something is a way of either feeling we are cleaning up our act or setting ourselves up to reach out for something thats
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Winner or Loser?

Do you view yourself as a winner or a loser? Well today (as I write this) is GCSE results day!  Fantastic for all those who have achieved the results they wanted.  Take a moment though to think about those who think they have failed or not got the results they expected.  It’s the same in anything in life where we hold expectations and don’t for some reason achieve them. Just because you don’t get the desired results you look at it as a failure.  Well in my world and what I teach – there is no such thing as failure. It is a way to learn
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Living the life you want?

How do you know you are in the right job, married to the right person pursuing the right hobbies, in fact living the life you want to? Well, heres the thing, If you’re not passionate about what you do you’re doing the wrong thing, At the end of the day it boils down to doing what you love, what sets you on fire on the inside.   Gone are the days where your parents had your lives mapped out for you and you just went along doing what you had to do, 9 to 5, 5 days a week with two weeks
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How to ask effectively

How many times have you wanted to ask someone for something but to afraid to ask incase you don’t ask effectively? Most people have an in built fear of hearing the word “NO.” My Father always told me “if you don’t ask you don’t get.” How true this is. You would be amazed at the reaction you will get by straight forward asking for exactly what you want. Ask exactly but in a nice way so there is no confusion to how it can be interpreted. The person being asked must be under no doubt of what you are asking.
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WOBBLY MOMENTS

We all have those moments where we doubt our ability to do something – that’s part and parcel of human nature. Especially at vulnerable moments where we might feel a bit off colour, you know when you might have a bug and you are at a low point, or if you let yourself get tired and a bit run down. Sometimes it can just seem a bit too much and you want to stop and say to yourself “I just don’t want to do this anymore”  and your confidence takes a nose dive. Then you let all sorts of thoughts creep into your mind like
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Are you looking after you and your working environment?

Do you have one of those lovely spacious clean offices with a good ambient feeling and lots of natural light pouring through the windows, uplifting pictures on the wall? Or is it cluttered and dowdy with little or no natural light? I visited a client last year who asked me to sort out their employees as they were not getting along. Well, when I walked into their workplace part of the problem smacked me in the eye! I could hardly get in the door from all the piles of paper, books and dust! The dirty looking 60’s paintwork looked disgusting
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The passion within

Let me ask you a question, are you happy, I mean really happy within yourself? How do you know you are in the right job, married to the right person, pursuing the right hobbies, in fact living the life you want to? Well, here’ the thing, if you’re not passionate about what you do you’re doing the wrong thing.  At the end of the day it boils down to doing what you love, what sets you on fire on the inside?  Gone are the days where your parents/teachers had your lives mapped out for you and you just went along
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Hey, are you talking my language?

Have you ever had problems getting someone to understand what you are trying to get across? You know that kind of stare they give you as if you’re off the planet? Well, if you are not using their preferred language patterns you may as well be talking double Dutch. This reminds me of when I was in Spain with my young family many years ago. I ordered us what I thought was baked beans on toast, but when our plate arrived we had broad beans and fried eggs! Hmmm, my Spanish is not as good as I thought! Sorry, I
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The return to school

I can nearly hear the sigh of relief from some parents as their little darlings are returning to school or college after the lovely long hot summer holidays! Whilst it may be a relief for parents it can be quite a stressful time for some youngsters.  May be they are moving up to a new class/year or just starting or changing school.  These stresses and anxieties if not treated fast can turn into full blown phobias and come out in all sorts of different ways. Sometimes these can be very subtle and you may not notice for a while but
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6 Tips to help you stay on top of your game in Business

How to stay on top of your game Many people in Business, especially start up’s are under the impression that you need to work 24/7 thats not the case unless you want to drive yourself into the ground. So here’s a few tips to keep you fresh, sharp and on top of your game 1.Make sure you work when you are in mental work mode, for instance my peak time is early morning and early evening, I get more done then than in the 9am – 5pm fashion! Although having said that Inspiration pops up at unexpected times when I
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7 of my secrets to being a successful Woman in Business

Having been a woman in Business for over 3 decades I have seen, heard and experienced many changes over the years. Fortunutly unlike some women in business, I have never really found there to be any problem in dealing with male colleagues, quite the opposite actually, they have in the main been most respectful, although I do remember a couple of sexual harassments from a couple of dickheads (am I allowed to say that!) many years ago which was uncomfortable to say the least but dealt with it head on.  Being a woman in Business is not always easy but
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7 ways to increase your confidence

It never stops to amaze me when I am talking to company directors, CEO’s, HR folks through to the person on the shop floor how lacking in confidence they can be. The higher up in a business a person is the more they try to hide it and suffer in silence, true what they say – it can be lonely at the top! There are so many people suffering in silence from lack of confidence, you would be surprised, in fact what seems to you to be the most confidence person can really be quaking in their boots at times!
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Dealing with the unexpected

Walking along a beach in Barra Scotland recently I came upon an unexpected scene! These cows were quite happily standing on the beach minding their own business, having clearly escaped from an a joining field where the fence was down. It made me think about how we deal with things when we come across unexpected situations, which can take us by surprise! Do you find the unexpected throws you into a panic or are do you deal with situations calmly? Meanwhile…The big black heavily muscled bull was approaching over the fence onto the beach and I can tell you I
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Youngsters suffering with Exam Nerves and Anxiety

Are your Young folks suffering with Exam Nerves and Anxiety?  Unfortunately our modern day lifestyles pile pressure on to our children from such a young age with ‘Learning Journals’ from the age of 2.5 documenting every tiny development to ensure that they are ‘on track’, to exams and assessments from the age of 6. Such situations can increase anxiety in a child, however well rounded they may appear to be.  A developing lack of confidence could come from a 7 year old receiving a lower grade then their best friend, to a GCSE student feeling under pressure to study
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